12 Restaurant Etiquette Tips for Dining Out

12 Restaurant Etiquette Tips for Dining Out

Restaurant Etiquette

More than simple table manners, there are a number of courtesies and etiquette rules to follow when dining in a restaurant. 


1. Honor your reservation. 

A no-show or late arrival cost the restaurant and staff money in lost revenue and tips. If you make a dinner reservation, be sure to honor it. If for any reason you can no longer attend, let the restaurant know as soon as possible so they can fill the table.


2. Dress appropriately. 

When dining in a high-end establishment, dress the part! Did you know that a number of restaurants are considering bringing back dress codes? I am all for it! 

 

3. Wait for your server to come to you. 

Snapping, waving, or yelling to your server is simply not appropriate. Wait for them to come to you. If you desperately need their attention, try to catch their eye line but nothing more. 

 

4. Keep the table clear of personal items.  

Cell phones, purses, wallets, sunglasses, and the like should not be placed on the table. Leaving your phone on the table in particular is a distraction and shows that you are not fully present with your dining companions. You should not use your phone for the duration of the meal. Pro Tip: if you are waiting for an important call, place your phone beneath your leg on your seat. 

 

5. Treat your server with the utmost respect. 

Look at your server when they are speaking and when you are ordering, say “please” and “thank you.” If something is wrong with your meal, communicate this politely and discreetly. 

 

6. Wait for everyone to be served before you begin eating. 

If the food is hot and everyone else has been served, be sure to tell your companions they may begin without you. 

 

7. Use non-verbal etiquette cues to communicate with your server. 

Non-verbal cues in the form of cutlery positions can tell your server whether you have finished or are still working on your dish. Use the open position to indicate you have not yet finished, and the closed position to indicate they may take your plate (explained in more detail here). Similarly, a napkin placed upon your seat means you have only left the table temporarily.

 

8. There is no need to explain when leaving the table temporarily. 

If you need to use the restroom, there is no need to explain where you are going. Simply say, “please excuse me,” when leaving the table. 

 

9. When a woman approaches the table, a man should stand up. 

This also goes for when she gets up to leave the table. This is a traditional etiquette rule but I believe we should continue to honor it. Note: this practice applies to social situations, in a business setting this is not done. 

 

10. If you require separate checks, tell your server in advance. 

It is far easier for a server to split the bill if they are aware in advance. They can keep track of what each person orders and keep them on separate checks. However, it is important to note that this is a courtesy, not a right. Many restaurants limit the number of separate checks and/or how many cards can be used to split a bill. Large parties should plan ahead when it comes to how they will pay. 

 

11. Tip fairly and generously. 

Basic restaurant etiquette and standard practice in the United States is to tip 20% for good service. Even if you felt your service was not up to par, you still must tip. Restaurant staff are paid significantly below minimum wage, as tips are intended to make up the bulk of their income. Whether you agree with the practice of tipping or not, cutting into someone’s wages because they made a simple mistake is unfair and unkind. 

 

12. Push your chair in when leaving the table.

Pushing your chair back into its proper position is simply good manners. It helps keep aisles clear in tight spaces and looks much tidier. 

I hope you have found these restaurant etiquette tips helpful! If you are interested in polishing your poise and learning more about social, business, and dining etiquette, follow my Instagram for everyday tips or reach out to book a one-to-one training.

Fitness Studio and Gym Etiquette Do’s and Don’ts

Fitness Studio and Gym Etiquette Do’s and Don’ts

Gym Etiquette Do's and Don'ts

Gyms and Fitness Studios are shared spaces where we visit to improve our health and feel better, both mentally and physically. Using these spaces with kindness and consideration makes for a better experience for all involved and ensures we leave these places feeling better than when we entered! Follow these gym etiquette tips to be a better patron.

Do check your gym and fitness studio’s rules. 

Most gyms and fitness studios have rules of conduct for members and guests. Because every gym is different, it is important to take the time to read and follow these rules. They can typically be found on the website or in the locker rooms.

Don’t arrive late to classes. 

Entering a class after it has started is disruptive and often means people have to shift around to accommodate you. Arriving to classes ten minutes early or at the very least, by the start time, is simply good manners.

Do put things back where they belong. 

At the gym, one of the most common complaints you will hear is regarding people not re-racking the weights they have used. It is a nuisance for the next person who has to find the weights they need. It also poses a tripping hazard. Standard gym etiquette is to put things back where they belong. That goes for foam rollers, yoga mats, props, and towels (yikes!), which must go into the receptacles provided.

Don’t linger. 

When the gym is busy, be expedient with your equipment use. A common sight in the gym today is people taking selfies before their squats or scrolling on their phone after finishing a set. At peak times when people are waiting to use equipment, it is important to avoid lingering as much as possible. 

Do treat equipment with respect. 

Just because it does not belong to you, does not mean you should be careless with it. Treat equipment with respect. Avoid dropping weights on the floor or letting machinery slam shut.

Don’t take phone calls or spend time scrolling. 

General rules regarding cell phone etiquette are that one should step away from others when taking phone calls, never use speakerphone in public, and when scrolling in a shared space, the volume should be switched off. These all apply to the gym. Similarly, when it comes to a studio class, your phone should be switched off entirely or left in a locker if possible. More cell phone etiquette tips can be found here (the hill I will die on, *wink!).

Do wipe down equipment and accessories after use. 

As a general courtesy (and gym etiquette must), use an antibacterial wipe, spray, or a gym towel to wipe down equipment after you use it.

Don’t give unsolicited advice. 

This has become a more common gym problem, where many people feel they can correct another person’s form or give their opinion without being asked for it. If you find yourself of the receiving end of an unsolicited opinion, try this response: “I appreciate your feedback. I have to finish my workout now. Thank you.”

Do keep music to a minimum.

When listening to music with headphones take care that the volume is not so high that others can hear it. And please, do not play music on the speaker of your cell phone.

Don’t arrive to a gym or fitness studio less than fresh… 

This should go without saying, and yes I understand that for obvious reasons, most people prefer to shower after a workout. However, these are shared spaces and if you are not smelling particularly fresh, it is unpleasant for the other patrons. Ensure your gym clothes are clean and your gym shoes are not biohazard-worthy when you remove them. 

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Parking Etiquette Tips: Consideration and Safety Above All

Parking Etiquette Tips: Consideration and Safety Above All

Parking Etiquette Tips Blog

Parking lots can be wild places. There is a lot of traffic moving in various ways, cars in both forward and reverse, numerous pedestrians and often small children, too. Taking care to make safety a priority and respecting the etiquette rules of parking can make it a safer and more courteous place for everyone. 


Park Between the Lines

Sometimes getting into a space can be awkward but if you are uneven, take a moment to straighten out so that your fellow drivers are able to get into and out of spaces (and their own vehicles) safely. 

Go Slow

Kindly mind your speed. Parking lots are busy spaces and our speed should reflect this. Obey the sign posted limit and if there is none, the given rule is a maximum of 15mph in a parking lot. The most common parking lot incident is between cars backing out of spaces and cars driving down the aisle. Slower speeds protect against fender benders and keep pedestrians safe. 

 

Handicapped Parking Spots

This is my most important parking etiquette tip of all! On a recent visit to Starbucks, I watched not one but TWO different people pull into the handicapped parking spot and run inside for their order within the span of drinking my cup of coffee. Neither car had a placard or identifying license plate, and there were no passengers in the vehicles. To say I was appalled is an understatement! 

This should go without saying but never, and I mean never, park in a handicapped parking spot if you are not handicapped. I would also say that if you have a handicapped passenger who will not be getting out of the car, you are not eligible to use the space either. 

Another note regarding handicapped spots, often people will park partially in the diagonal lines of a handicapped parking place thinking there is extra room there. This is NOT the case. This area with the diagonal lines is specifically designed for wheelchair ramps. If you park in these and a person with a wheelchair returns to their car, they will not be able to get inside it. Always park within the lines to leave the appropriate amount of space. 

 

Use Your Turn Signals 

This goes for any time you are on the road (I am looking at you, Floridians!), but is especially helpful in parking lots. Not only does your indicator help other drivers know where you are going or parking, but it also helps pedestrians. 

 

Drive in the Correct Direction

Going the wrong way down an angled aisle is very unsafe as you are at odds with the vantage point of anyone backing out. Follow the arrows in the parking lot with care. 

 

Do Not Park in Reserved Spaces

A friend of mine lives in a complex near a very busy area and has to regularly have cars towed from her assigned parking space. In fact, on numerous occasions, she has had a car towed, gone to retrieve her vehicle from street parking, and returned only to find a new car has taken its place. This is despite the space having a clear signpost with her name. 

This woman lives in a parking impacted area and pays for her space. She should be able to park when she returns home. It is important to respect rules when they are given. If the space is reserved, find another (and avoid an unpleasant towing fee in the process!)

This also goes for spots that are designated for certain types of cars, such as Electric Vehicles. If your car is not electric, the spot is not available. 

 

Respect the Order of Arrival 

In a busy parking lot, the person who was waiting gets the spot. Hopefully, they have used their turn signal to indicate this. 

 

Avoid Unnecessary Traffic Jams

When dropping off someone who is “just running in,” do not wait at the curb for them. This impedes the flow of traffic and makes people move around you. Plus, it can affect visibility for pedestrians who cannot see the incoming traffic moving around your vehicle. Simply take a lap around the lot and return when your passenger does. 

Shopping Carts

Always, always return your shopping cart to the designated area. Even if this means going all the way back to the storefront. Returning your cart is a common courtesy that protects other vehicles and respects the store employees. And remember, pushing the cart up onto the curb does not count! 

 

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Thanksgiving Etiquette Tips for Hosts and Guests

Thanksgiving Etiquette Tips for Hosts and Guests

Thanksgiving Hosting and Guest Etiquette Tips

Whether you are hosting or attending, holidays such as Thanksgiving should carry certain formalities and courtesies. Following good host and guest etiquette leaves a lasting impression and ensures that fun can be had by all. 

Thanksgiving Etiquette Tips for Hosts

Taking on the role of the host is quite the responsibility. Whether you are catering to a small group of four or a large extended family and friends, organization and firm boundaries are your friends here.

  1. Ask about dietary requirements in advance. It is crucial to check whether your guests have allergenic, religious, or personal dietary requirements. If a guest is vegan for example, and you plan to put pork in the green beans, you will need to take care to not only make a separate batch but ideally use separate cooking utensils to avoid cross-contamination too. Respecting a guest’s dietary requirements is a great courtesy that requires prior planning. 
  2. Have your guests arrive an hour before you intend to serve the meal. This allows time for mingling and a cocktail while you put together final touches, and accounts for anyone who may be running behind. 
  3. Ask for help if you need it to get dinner out on time. There is no award for martyrdom when it comes to hosting! No one wants to be the frantic, frazzled host (nor do guests want to experience this).
  4. If a guest refuses alcohol, do not pry or pressure them to partake. Likewise, apart from asking about dietary restrictions and accommodating them, do not ask for the “why” behind their personal choices. 
  5. As a host, it is your role to guide table conversation when necessary. If a controversial topic comes up, be direct and change the subject before things get out of hand. Maintaining and communicating a rule of no politics at the holiday table will ensure everyone stays comfortable despite differing viewpoints. 
  6. Apart from clearing the table, wait until after guests have left to begin cleaning up. Nothing spoils the fun faster than the clanging of dishes! 

 

Thanksgiving Etiquette Tips for Guests

We all want to be good guests when attending an event or visiting a person’s home. Keeping these tips in mind for Thanksgiving and the holiday season alike will always leave a positive impression.

  1. Arrive on time. This goes for any occasion. As a guest, it is important to arrive on time for any event, but particularly when someone is cooking for you. Arrive early and you may catch your host during last-minute preparations. Arrive late and you may cause everyone to wait for you. Your host is working hard on multiple dishes and timing them so they are all ready at the same time. It is a balancing act in itself, try not to create added stress by arriving too early or late. 
  2. Ask what you can bring. If your host declines, bring a small hostess gift such as a scented candle. If you opt to bring flowers, make sure they are in a vase. The last thing your hosts need as guests are arriving is to be finding a vase for flowers. 
  3. Do not get into a conversation around politics or any other controversial topics. This is mentioned above but it applies to guests too! Leave the tricky subjects for another time (or never!) 
  4. Know when to take your leave. Thanksgiving is a marathon for most hosts to prepare and after you leave they will have to clean up and likely do other chores. Do not overstay your welcome.
  5. Send a handwritten thank-you note within a few days of attending to show your gratitude to your host.

I hope you have found these Thanksgiving etiquette tips helpful. Wishing you all a wonderful holiday weekend full of good manners and good cheer!

With a wink and a smile,
Lisa Lyons

 

 

 


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Cell Phone Etiquette: Tips For Modern Manners

Cell Phone Etiquette: Tips For Modern Manners

Lisa Lyons at her desk on her cell phone to illustrate cell phone etiquette

Cell phone etiquette is a topic we truly must discuss! It is difficult to remember a time before our devices. They are such a part of our modern lives that we often feel lost without them. However, many of us are committing cell phone faux pas on a regular basis. 

We must lean into courtesy to become better citizens and better friends when it comes to cell phone usage. Keep the following tips in mind next time you use your mobile phone: 

 

The People You Are With Take Precedence Over a Call 

If you are expecting an important call, tell the people you are with in advance. Otherwise, be respectful to those you are with, who have chosen to spend their precious time with you. 

 

Step Away From Others When Taking A Call 

Chatting away in public is impolite. Do not take calls in public places or around others. Find a secluded area or step outside to speak on the phone. That goes for restaurants, cafés, nail salons, and stores. If you are a passenger in a car, it is best to avoid taking a call unless it cannot be avoided. 

 

Do Not Use Speakerphone in Public Places 

Further to the above, definitely avoid using speakerphone unless you are somewhere private. Not only to protect the other person’s privacy but as a courtesy to those around you. 

 

Consider Your Ringtone

The theme song to Sex and the City might be a fun ringtone for calls from your best friend, but you might be embarrassed if it goes off under the wrong circumstances! 

 

Know When to Switch to “Silent” 

Switch to silent mode in shared public spaces where people are paying for an experience. This includes restaurants, movie theaters, and nail salons. This also goes for business meetings or anytime you are with clients. 

 

Avoid “Cell Yell”

The tendency to speak with an “outside voice” on the phone is a very real phenomenon. It is also poor cell phone etiquette! Keep your voice at a normal speaking level whenever possible. 

 

Cell Phone Use for Children

Many parents today offer their phones to children while in waiting rooms, in line, or at restaurants. Parents who had children prior to the smartphone are undoubtedly envious of this convenience! However, often when this device handover occurs, the phone is being used with the sound on. If you intend to let your children watch a video on your phone at the restaurant, make sure to be prepared with headphones so as not to disturb other diners who are paying for a nice evening out. This applies to any shared public space. 

Note: if you have multiple children sharing one device, a headphone splitter can help solve this problem.

 

Keep Time Zones in Mind

When reaching out to someone who lives further away, consider their time zone before sending a call or text. You do not want to be sending a text in the middle of the night and waking them up, or calling too early in the morning. 

In general, you do not want to be making calls before 9 am or after 8 pm. Keep time zones in mind to respect this guideline no matter where your contact is located. 

 

Do Not Put Your Phone on the Table

Whether you’re at a dinner or a business meeting, keep your cell phone off the table and give your friends and colleagues your undivided attention. 

 

The Camera Function

Do not take or post images of someone without their consent. This is an especially important rule when it comes to children. Everyone has a right to privacy. 

 

Do Not Text and Drive

The last, but arguably most important point of all. Etiquette and manners are all about courtesy, and there is nothing less courteous than endangering others. My firmest cell phone etiquette rule is: do not text and drive. Whatever it is can wait until you reach your destination or at least until you can safely pull over. 

 

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